Tuesday, March 1, 2011


I'm not even sure that I want to post this. I'm pretty sure i've posted things like this before. Maybe i'm having a mid-life crisis at 35. Who knows! I have a good life, I have a husband who provides well for our family. I have great kids. I have a home to live in and food to eat, clothes to wear (well, really right now I don't have that many clothes to wear). I have a good life and really couldn't ask for things to be much better however, I know that If I would make some changes.....they would be a lot better than they already are.

Have you ever had things in your life that you feel like you need or want to change? Well, right now I have a lot of things I want and need to change. The problem....where and how to start!

I have so many thoughts in my head of all these things I am going to do and ways to do them but yet I don't know where to start or don't have the motivation to change anything. I kept thinking to myself that after I got over the morning sickness from this pregnancy and I feel better I would be able to make a change and start working on all of these things that I want to do. Well, for the most part I am feeling a lot better other than maybe a couple of bad days here and there but...I still can't seem to do anything different.

What do you do when you have this problem...

Some of these things are silly and no big deal but others will make a huge difference in the way my life with my husband, kids and even my own future will turn out.

I had a long talk with Brandon about something I was struggling with today. Something that I know I need to change. I need to just let go and stop trying to control everything within this situation in order for it to get any better. Sometimes I want to blame the other person involved but deep down I know that it could be a lot easier if I would just change and quit trying to do everything my way. This is really a silly situation and something that will not effect the rest of my life in any way shape or form and in talking to Brandon he helped me to realize that it's not going to matter to me in the long run so I just need to stop trying so hard to fix the problem. But I also need to change the way I am handling the situation in order to get through my days without so much stress! This is is a pretty easy fix and I have already started working on this one.

These others are not so easy... I know what I need to do, I just feel like I don't know how to do them.

So, I want your suggestions. What is the first step in making a change? What do you do in these situations?


♥Shally said...

I think you have done the first step-- wanting to change and know what you want to change.

Now, you need to prioritize.

1. Pick the most important few things and work on those first. You may find that the others that seem so big now will not be such a big deal later on. Don't stress!

2.Don't be so hard on yourself... I think so many strive to be perfect when they just need to be the perfect *insert name here*. I am working on being the perfect Shally. Not the perfect Jennifer Anniston, or my wonderful RS president.

3. Find what you love and do it everyday! Life is too short to miss out on it because you want to change all of it.

4. Take time to rejuvinate. Read your scriptures, listen to uplifting music. Read your favorite book. Enjoy it and don't feel bad using part of your day to help yourself.

5. Enjoy that growing baby inside of you! It is such a magical time. Really. You waited so long, and you can never get this time back.

Haley said...

Thanks Shal!

JoAnna said...


Anonymous said...

join the club!!! i think it is a scharman curse!!!! if you figure it out let me know. Love ya!!!

Anna said...

I was just going to write exactly what Jo wrote.

kim said...

I feel the same way, it's sad to say. I have talked to dad a little which helped. If I were you I would try to focus on the joy and happiness your family brings you and the little one growing inside you. If you can focus on one thing that makes you really happy, family, kids, the baby, that will build your spirit up. From that point its usually easier to look at situations from a more positive standpoint. Its hard to do but try to be positive. We love you.